The Extra Cost of Being an Overthinker


Hello, there. The other side of me, being an overthinker, will be speaking to you today. Are you overthinking at times, as well? You can’t sleep, can you? I know because sometimes, it also keeps me up at night. What could, what should or what will happen tomorrow – different scenarios are playing in my mind. I actually contemplate about this. Perhaps, I can put the blame to me, being an engineer? Engineers love problem solving. We want to arrive at the solution, no matter how long it takes to get there. It’s just hard for us to give up. In fact, I have even tried solving intriguing math problems in my sleep back then. We think deeply. However, sometimes it becomes a little too deep.

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The bright side of being an overthinker

The act of overthinking can sometimes be good. It helps us evaluate the situation and options to arrive at the best solution. However, from a different perspective, the act itself can be negative. Looking back, I overthink because I want to make the best decisions in life. I play the situations over and over, and I don’t do this only for myself, but for all the people involved. Thinking about one’s self – that’s given. But overthinking starts when I also think how my actions will affect others.

The price you pay being an overthinker

Cycle repeats. I’m just letting my thoughts and anxiety consume me. “What if I do this instead of that?” Being an overthinker, do you know what the cost is? It’s happiness, and it is a heavy price to pay. The more you fight it, the more you think about it, the more you can’t sleep, the deeper you fall into the hole.

Being an overthinker, you actually spend time contemplating about meaningless things to the point that you end up spending more time thinking about the situation, instead of the time it would have taken to solve it. I know it is easier said than done, but accept the fact that not all things are meant for YOU to solve. Let things go, let them take their own course, do what you just can.

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The antidote

I am happy that over the years, I have learned how to manage overthinking although there are some nights it still attacks me. But, if ever I find myself again overthinking, I just immediately change the channel in my mind. It could be TURNING AWAY, IGNORING MY THOUGHTS, and DOING SOMETHING COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. Over the years, this is the process I have used. Thinking that happiness is at stake, I know that it’s worth the try.

What also keeps me at peace is the reassuring message from this verse. It eases my anxiety and worry. Most especially, it calms my soul.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6-7

Think about this. If you don’t control your thoughts, these very same thoughts will pay the price of your future.

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Christ Angeli
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Hi! I’ve stopped overthinking for a while now. Thanks to you! Haha! I get rid of anything that disturbs my peace. Unless it’s worth it.

Loise
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That’s really a part of being an Engineers since we just don’t solve problems short term but permanently so we really tend to overthink somehow. That actually completes the why-why analysis we are always doing when solving problems, asking a lot of questions till we sometimes arrive somewhere deeper.
But through the years I’ve been managing it well because I know that there are a lot of negative impact if I stay to overthink. Great read!

Nicole Anderson | Camping for Women
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I hate to say it but one friend who I have known for a long time is a classic over-thinker. She means so well in everything she does but she takes everything to the nth degree. This is especially so when it comes to thinking about what other people might think or say and it can be really tiresome when you are around at the time because you are constantly asked what you think on a huge range of possible scenarios. She agrees that she over-thinks things but says that is just her personality and she really can’t stop. It… Read more »

Cristina Petrini
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I don’t have such a technical mind, but I definitely come back to the kind of people who think too much maybe that’s why I’m training myself to find a different balance and sometimes to be more instinctive.

Manahil
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Manahil

Being an overthinker means more stress is coming your way. Thanks for highlighting the brighter side of it too. Awesome post!

Ben
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Ben

Overthinking has been a problem for me for my entire life. I routinely go back over my actions and conversations, trying to figure out where I went wrong, even though intellectually I know that I didn’t.

yana
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yana

yes. it’s a bit hard to be overthinker as sometimes this really can be a problem to get some relax, but sometimes we always do this in some special situatuion when we made a decision and we try to understand if it was right one or we had other option…

Ntensibe Edgar
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Hihi….you sounded like somebody I know. He used to tell me that overthinking about anything would never do me any good and over time, I realised it was very true.

Kelly
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I can be an over thinker, but many times I am replaying past experiences. Philippians 4:6-7 is one of my favorites. I have refocused my worries and left it to God. I don’t over think as much as I have in the past. I love you focus on the future. My son wants to be an engineer and I totally see the similarities you two share! 🙂

Heather Ritchie
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I am totally an overthinker and while it help’s me evaluate the situation or incident. But I play those thoughts or all the possible outcomes over and over in my head! But I have really started working on this. Great post!

the joyous living
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only 2 percent of 1 percent of our thoughts?! holy cow. that is a number. wow.

Kuntala Bhattacharya
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Kuntala Bhattacharya

I have realized this as part of my experience of life, we need to distinguish which areas demand to overthink and which not. If we can do that distinction then we win, else we must not attempt to overthink at all. Good post from your side in bringing up a common issue faced by many.

Gervin Khan
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Gervin Khan

I’ve totally agree with everything you’ve cited. There are advantages and disadvantages of over thinking that it will make what mood you’ll be having on that moment. Thanks for sharing your experience about this condition and how we can manage it.

Matt Taylor
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Matt Taylor

I am totally guilty of being an overthinker sometimes. Thanks for sharing the tips you use to get over the overthinking!

Kim Kay Blake
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I find that when we overthink things we tend to talk ourselves right out of action. We have defeated ourselves before we even started. It is definitely a problem we need to get a handle on. Thanks for this great post.

Srishti Singh
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Hi! I’ve stopped overthinking for a while now. It’s so hard sometimes to stop it. But i try really hard 🙂

Tara Pittman
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I am an overthinker and at times it can complicate things. Just buying airline tickets can be time-consuming.

Sarah
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Overthinking is rumination (and ruination) however, we live in a life where overthinking is a good thing. It is caution and being safe. Overall, it is not a good trait to possess as we are designed to only think about those thoughts that need attention. Dissecting something into a oblivious brain freeze isn’t going to make those thoughts disappear sadly.

Emily Zielinski
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I used to overthink everything but then I started having real bad anxiety issues so now I probably don’t think enough as I’m so casual about things. Lol

Marie Phillips
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This was a problem I have had for my whole life. I had to think everything to death so I could make the best choice and control the outcome. And then one day I realized you just can’t control everything. So now I try to think things out reasonably and make the best decision I can–and not worry about the outcome because I have done what I could. Once I was able to let go of that, it was so freeing. I still struggle a bit from time to time, but it is easier to let go when I realize… Read more »

Stephen
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When I overthink, I found that I ended up buying something to take my mind off the thing, which worked in the short term but not a permanent fix and was a waste of money

Daniel Sierra
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Daniel Sierra

I have always been an overthinker about everything. I tend to spend hours looking to the ceiling while just worrying about many things. Yoga has helped a lot in recent years. Gwet some time to relax and meditate really helps clear your mind. Thank you very much for your advice

Shahrom Martijn
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I used to overthink a lot. Now I just learn to breathe, let go and let God handle my life matters.

Nyxie
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I’ve started to keep a worry journal where I can house all my thoughts. It doesn’t eliminate the problem completely but it does help!

Pepe Samson
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Omg i can totally relate to this! Sometimes i hate myself for overthinking (almost) everything hahaha

Britt K
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Being an overthinker can definitely be a positive if you learn how to manage your thoughts and harness them in a positive way. Thank you for taking the time to share your own experience to help those that may still be learning how to navigate their own minds.

Rae
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I am an overthinker too! When I feel anxious already, I go to my bible app too 🙂

Margaret | Live Like No On Else
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What a great post. Luckily, I’m not an overthinker. I rarely lay awake at night thinking about things, no matter how severe they may be. Ever since I was a kid, sleep was my way to escape stress. I am a thinker, but when I have a problem, I consider it thoughtfully, then let it go. The answers seem to come without me consciously thinking about them. 🙂

Krysten Quiles
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I’m a major overthinker, which has made me struggle right now because I’m so in my head. I really appreciated this post, thank you!

Katie Lam
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Thanks for sharing this! Got to focus on what we can control instead of overthinking it.

Chantal
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Chantal

I honestly catch myself overthinking one in a while but I am a lot better then I use to be. I would always get anxious and think of so many different outcomes. I have learn to let go and relax. Great article!!!!

Katie Lam
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic! We can only focus on things we can control, and not overthink things we can’t. Stay safe and healthy!

Nicole San Miguel
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I’m also an over-thinker and it’s really hard to sleep at night. I think I should also practice ignoring my thoughts.

Joanna
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Joanna

You can definitely miss on a lot of things in life if you are an overthinker. It’s good to think things through when it comes to important decisions, but also to let yourself go and discover other experiences in life that only require you to say yes. It’s like regret, you never regret the things you do, just the ones you don’t.

michael
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nice post dear keep it up, keep spreading the info.
Here are some tips to help us master patience https://rhapsodyofrealities.org.ng/tips-to-master-patience/

Elicit Folio
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Elicit Folio

I love this article! I too am an overthinker. But the point you made about controlling our thoughts was so powerful. Especially now with so much negativity in the news. I will share this article with some of my friends.

Cindy Ingalls
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Over thinking is easy to do but so non-productive!

Caitlin Dani
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We totally understand what it’s like to be an overthinker. There are definitely good sides and bad sides to it.

Cha of littlemisadvencha is a Filipino Civil Engineer, researcher and a fur mom. She came from General Santos City and finds that everything in life teaches her a lesson. She is inspired to write about and out of her experiences, but later found out that it was her experiences that actually inspire her.

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