When are you getting married?
You are in your 20’s or even early 30’s of existence, and…
- People keep on bothering you with this question.
- It is annoying because it becomes repetitive.
- People tell you that you should get married and have kids already before it’s too late.
People attack you with this question in every family gathering or wedding you attend. Tito’s and Tita’s will approach you, “It is your turn now. So, when?” Most of the time, they use this question to be a conversation starter. Can’t they just think of less offensive conversation starter such as “What’s up? How are you? How was your summer vacation?”
Marriage – It is a decision to commit to someone your whole life. Do not be pressured especially when you are still not ready. This article will give you perfect responses to this question. Just remember that people who ask you this question have different personalities, so answer in a way that it might not be annoying or unfriendly, even if you already are annoyed.
Why are you not married yet?
I am still enjoying my life.
I want to maximize my full potentials. I am happy. I am not yet ready for big responsibilities. I still want to work on myself before committing to a relationship. I still have a lot of things to accomplish before I want to marry.
It’s not yet the right time.
I haven’t found the one yet. The right time to get married is when I already find the right person, and not settle for the wrong one. I don’t want to let the society dictate when is the right time for me.
I don’t settle for less.
Because up to this very moment, no one was good enough for me for me to share my life with them.
I don’t have any problem with marrying at old age.
Ooops. This might not be very ideal for ladies. But for others, sometimes, it is an issue of self-esteem. If you don’t have problems with marrying at old age, then go for it. People who are thinking that way are insecure not to find the person who will love them before it is too late.
I don’t want to blindly follow the crowd.
Just because everyone is getting married does not mean you should, too. Remember, marriage is a final frontier. I don’t want the day to come wondering what things would have become if I hadn’t rushed into settling down so quickly even if I wasn’t ready.
We are still enjoying each other’s company.
We are getting to know more of each other. We want to travel and be alone with each other: no responsibilities, no rush, and no pressure.
I am focusing on other things right now.
I am still studying. I am still spending some time in my career. I am currently getting my business off the ground.
My partner is still swimming the Pacific Ocean to reach me.
I haven’t found the one yet. I believe that God has a perfect plan for me. With patience and faith, God will bring this person to my life for marriage.
Keep this in mind: Your plan to marry is no one’s business. People think that it is within their rights to dig into your personal life. Instead of responding to them awkwardly, brush the question off with a smile and a polite answer. Take some time as well to be with yourself to acknowledge your feelings. Remind yourself of your good values – whether or not you really want to get married.
So, when are you getting married?
littlemisadvencha is a Filipino Civil Engineer, M.S. student in Structural Engineering and a fur mom of four-legged babies. She writes about her experiences to inspire and educate.